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Getting it on when you have housemates

How to get intimate discretely

By Tyler Wayne Patterson

I began writing this article trying to hunt down for students willing to go on record about what their sex sounds like. It proved pretty difficult, since it turns out you all care more about your professional futures than my world-class journalism. This is 2015, peopleIf you’ve taken one nude, you might as well have taken 1000.

Luckily, it wasnt as hard to get people to talk about what music listen to during sex and why.

I always listen to music during sex,asserted Molly Wyman 16, like, I have to. It sets the rhythm.

You see, I played Mean Girls loudly to drown out my first threesome so that my mom wouldnt hear, but I found the movie distracting. Since then, I assumed music would be just as distracting. The only times Ive ever used music was to spare housemates from hearing me.

Almost always the reason Ive played music is so that others don’t hear,said Mia Freiberg 16, but my current roommates and I have a mutual understanding and openness about sex.

For Molly, music sets a mood. For Mia, it’s a matter of respect and not being embarrassed.

But here’s the thing: is part of sharing space accepting that you might hear someone next-door having sex? Like, if I have to listen to you practice violin, cant you hear me have sex? Sure, loud and vulgar sex could be inappropriate, but wouldnt a loud and vulgar conversation be just as rude?

The thinking behind Mias household, she says, is that you might overhear us having sex, and I might overhear you. We’re adults, we can talk it out if we need to.

Out of respect for others, you may choose to be quieter. Whether sex makes your roommates or neighbors uncomfortable, or they need some uninterrupted rest before a test, a combination of quite sex and ambient music seems to be the popular solution. Etiquette books dont dictate stuff like this, folks.

But dont sweat it. Respect goes both ways. You might have a roommate who plays video games at 4 am, or occasionally gets it on a Thursday night. If it’s really a problem (like if you cant bear to hear the words give it to me, daddyone more time or something) I think a simple, polite note under the door a few hours after they finish is appropriate to avoid embarrassment.

Otherwise, a simple headboard bang or moan just doesnt sound like that big of a deal. But everyone is different. Make sex a part of your hall/housemate meetings, because communication is always better. Or, use music.

If you find choosing music to have sex too stressful, or need some inspiration, my friends over at KLC Radio made you a playlist: listen to it here

What do Pioneers listen to when having sex?

Jeremy Bacharach (’16) : Look At What the Light Did Now — Feist (Duet w/ Little Wings)

Elliot Young (faculty): No Hay Nadie Como Tu — Calle 13

Andrew Williamson (’17): Reckoner — Radiohead

Kora Link (’18) The Smiths

4 Comments

  1. […] Getting it on when you have housemates – Etiquette books don’t dictate stuff like this, folks. Otherwise, a simple headboard bang or moan just doesn’t sound like that big of a deal. But everyone is different. Make sex a part of your hall/housemate meetings … […]

  2. […] Getting it on when you have housemates – Etiquette books don’t dictate stuff like this, folks. Otherwise, a simple headboard bang or moan just doesn’t sound like that big of a deal. But everyone is different. Make sex a part of your hall/housemate meetings … […]

  3. […] Getting it on when you have housemates – For Mia, it’s a matter of respect and not being embarrassed. But here’s the thing: is part of sharing space accepting that you might hear someone next-door having sex? Like, if I have to listen to you practice violin … […]

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